That’s what his friends called him. Jeff and I decided to call him Little Pa. It was confusing to a 3 year old and a five year old to call both our grandfathers grandpa all the time. So, in toddler logic, the shortest grandfather would henceforth and forever be known as – Little Pa
Little Pa was my one positive family influence in my life as a kid. He did not approve of the job my parents were doing. But, his generation (he was born in 1905) believed you did not interfere with parents raising their kids, even if those parents were your own kids.
So, he took it upon himself to teach me what it meant to be a man, or rather a gentleman. It all came down to how you treat other people, all people. And the example you set in public forums. So, while I laugh silently at many of your posts and would love to share them — I won’t.
He also taught me that life is hard and unfair. People are doing the best they can, give them a break. Accept them the way you find them, not the way you’d like them to be.
He said, “The standards I am giving you are for you to live by. NOT for you to judge other people by.” (Thank you Little Pa).
Believe me, I have the same sense of humor, enjoy the same innuendos you do, and could probably out do a few of you. Though I won’t allow myself to go there in public, I enjoy watching y’all. Some men will think this is my “game,” and a few women too.
No game, just me. Which brings me to something else my grandfather said.
“What other people think of you is none of your business.”
I also do not compete with other men for the affections of friends or women. A person you can take from someone can be taken from you, by someone else. A person who does not need you, but chooses you cannot be taken from you. Their loss, if it happens, is on you.
I want to be chosen. And once I am with you, no other person can change that. No one can turn me against my friend, and no woman can take me from my woman. I am their’s to lose.
My grandfather’s most important lesson he taught me two days after his death.
You are human, you will make mistakes, you will unintentionally hurt other people. That’s okay, you will never be perfect. It’s what you say and do after your mistakes that counts the most.
Thank you “Little Pa.” I miss you, but you are always with me. Elizabeth had gotten to know you and wishes she could have met you. You’d be proud of your great-granddaughter, she is a fine young lady and will be a good woman.