This week I would like to share with you a poem from a friend, Melanie Williams. So often the most meaningful words are the most concise. Have you been looking for the secret to a happy and meaningful life? Read on, you just found it.
LIFE IS SHORT
Life is short,
Live it.
Love is rare,
Grab it.
Anger is bad,
Dump it.
Fear is awful,
Face it.
Memories are sweet,
Cherish them.
Melanie Williams, Jan. 2014
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The end of the year is always a time of reflection for me, as it is for many of you. This year there was a little more reflection than the normal new year. This new year ended a ten year struggle that has been the hardest I have had too endure. The last five years were the financial collapse and divorce. This new year also marks the end of a three year period of looking deep within myself to find my part in all of this, and then making the changes I need to make. It also marks a new beginning. I decided to rid myself of the things in my life that had me locked in a vicious, destructive cycle. To be sure there have been outside influences, but the real problem was me. At every level, in each case, there was something I could have done to change the out come. The resposibility was mine, and I did not take it. In some instances I merely enabled others, in other cases I had a more active role. I’m not perfect now, far from it. Every day I wake up, look in the mirror and think about the day before and the day ahead, what am I working on today, what do I want to change about yesterday. But I am moving forward and the change is happening now.
Part of the reflection was admitting what did not fit in my life and doing somethings that were difficult for me to do. The two hardest were the people I had to walk away from and the steady paycheck I needed to leave behind. After I made the decisions, came the time for action. As I began to take action, opportunities and people began to cross my path. Some of the opportunities left me dumb-founded, I just “couldn’t believe my luck” as some people say. Some were people who needed my help, some were people who helped me. All of it has been welcomed.
I have often quoted to other people, “every ending is a new beginning.” But the reverse is true as well. Often the most important periods in my life are book-marked. Events or people, that as I look back, clearly mark the beginning and the end of that period. I was thinking about this as New Year’s eve approached and 2013 was winding down. The beginning of my decade was 10 April 2004, the birth and loss of my oldest daughter, Alexandra. The end of my decade happened while I was contemplating it all, 1 Jan 2014, the loss of my sister-in-law Rachel Pergeson.
Rachel was a really neat person, tough, but with a good heart. Very intelligent she was also an entrepreneur. Small in stature and large in life, a fiery red-head that you could not help but notice as soon as she entered a room. She was strong-willed (like me) and we did not always agree on what was best for the baby brother (I raised for the first 8 years of his life). I will miss her, but I have no doubt that one day I will see her again. Because I do believe the soul goes on.
My belief in the after-life is a part of my spiritual beliefs, but I also believe it is bourne out by science as well. It is science that tells us that energy cannot be destroyed, it can only changed states. A friend of mine extolls readers of her blog to “Be the light you already are.” (click the phrase) Sheri’s right, we are light, each and everyone of us. That light that you are, that energy, is unique. Of all the people who have existed no two are exactly the same in every detail. Each is beautiful, unique and precious their way. CS Lewis said, “We are not a body that has a soul, we are a soul that has a body.” However you want to look at it, whatever you own spiritual beliefs, we are all unique, we are all energy, positive energy; and when the body dies our essence merely changes states.
Rachel with her daughter Paige
Rachel E. Pergeson 25 Feb 1975~1 Jan 2014
But while we are here, I for one, intend to live life to the fullest, just the way Alexandra and Rachel would want us too. I am not sitting this dance out. Though I have to wait to see those I love who have gone on before me, they are still with me. As long as my mind is clear and I have my memories, they will go everywhere I go, they will be right there with me, encouraging me with words spoken now only in my memory, but just as potent and true as when I heard them the first time. I hope that you too will try to grab that brass ring and live life to the fullest. When you have the chance to dance or sit it out – dance, dance like all the world is a stage.
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I do not like New Year’s resolutions, and this is not one. This is just a little advice to help you along your way. I have a hard time with it myself … but I am trying. Have a GREAT New Year. – Joe
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This is my Christmas gift to you. This is not your typical Christmas writing and for some of you it may be hard to read. Please, stay with me. My Christmas wish for you is to feel the love that surrounds you, feel the peace of those who bring and have brought joy and love into your life, and for you to be able to experience the joy of celebrating and experiencing life.
The religions of the world have creeds, doctrines, and laws that the faithful must follow. People, not the Creator, create religions and their rules; the Creator has but one law, one creed, one doctrine – Love.
Many of these religions claim the bible as their governing document. When I read the bible (No, I am not trying to convert you. I love you just the way you are.) I do not see all the rules, I see one rule – love. When the religious leaders tried to trick Jesus, they asked Him what was the greatest commandment. They were expecting Him to pick one of the Ten Commandments over the other nine. Instead, He stated simply and elegantly the greatest commandment was to love God; the second greatest commandment was for us to love each other as we love ourselves. He said, “On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”
There are no random acts in life, we are all connected, and we are all one family. Strangers are merely family we have yet to come to know. No life is a waste and good can come from all things, if only we have the eyes to see, ears to hear, and the heart to feel.
One of the things in life that we lament is fairness. Often we create rules and laws to insure fairness. But, if life were fair, no good person would ever die young. Some people believe that before we are born we choose the circumstances of our birth, life, and death, even to the point of who will be a part of our life. Stop and think about that for a moment – that is powerful.
If this is true then what we see as a loss is not a loss, but a sacrifice. A sacrifice our loved ones made for us. Sacrifice is something we should always be proud of, for in the act of sacrifice we do not lose that which is precious to us, we pass it on to those we love. Sacrifice is the noblest thing we do; it is what makes us human.
My grandfather lived to the age of 72 (I was 16 at the time). He wanted to live long enough to see me graduate high school and become a man (I was his oldest grandchild). But, this was his sacrifice for me. You see, I remember the many teachings of my grandfather even though, at the time, many of them I did not understand. As I moved into the world I pondered many of the things he said to me, but without my grandfather to tell me what to do, I had to make my own decisions for myself. Without my grandfather, I had to stand on my own in the world.
Each year on Facebook, I ask my Facebook friends this one question at Christmas time, “What was the first Christmas gift?” The answer is – a father’s love. God so loved the world that he gave his only son for the world. In my own personal faith we are all children of God (I am still not trying to convert you). Do, you see the sacrifice he made for us? No conditions, no selfishness He gave all. This is the love of a father. A love I had never known until the birth of my daughter Alexandra.
What of my daughter Alexandra? Her life was a mere 93 minutes. Yet, from this tiny girl came the greatest of all gifts. Alexandra passed on to me unconditional, total, unselfish love. I was 42 years old and had experienced many things in life both good and bad. Yet, I had never experienced a love that gives all and takes nothing. Without this gift from my daughter, Alexandra, I would never have been able to give the unconditional love of a father to my daughter Elizabeth, and so Alexandra passed on her gift of love to a little sister she never met.
My favorite author started one of his books with something he called “The Storyteller’s Creed,” it ends with, “… and I believe that love is stronger than death.” You see, life must end, but love does not. There are people in our lives whose hands we can no longer hold, whose hair we can no longer brush from their faces, whose warmth we can no longer feel in an embrace. Yet they are still with us, and they will always be with us as long as we have our memories; and as long as the love that we shared with those people still lives within us. That love will never die. This is the greatest gift, their last gift to us, the gift of their unconditional love.
Our last gift to them is to pass on their gift of love to others. There is however, one more part we need to conquer before we can share their love. Forgiveness.
When I learned to drive a car in driver’s education in high school, Mr. Henderson taught us to keep our eyes down the road in the middle of our lane. He said that we go where our eyes go. A great lesson for life, not just for driving. (Thank you Mr. Henderson).
Many of us have people we have not forgiven. By not forgiving people, we are keeping our eyes on that wrong from our past. Hate, anger, and hurt are a double-edge sword, the harm we think we are doing to others; we are really doing to ourselves and those we love. You see, we don’t forgive those people for their sake, but for our own and for the sake of those who love us. Until we can forgive, we are stuck in a past of hate, anger, and hurt.
We have to leave the past so that we may focus on the love we share and have shared with others. By doing this, we are then able to pass on the love that has been passed on to us. This is how we honor those who wait for us on the other side, through sharing their love with others, and we cannot share their love until we forgive.
This Christmas my wish for you is the gift of forgiveness, but I cannot give you this gift, nor can anyone else. It is a gift that only you, can give to yourself.
May you always feel joy, peace and love.
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I have never dedicated a post to anyone before, but this week I would like to dedicate this post to my friend, Ed Horner. Besides being a good husband, father and friend, Ed was also one damn fine submarine sailor. Fair winds and following seas my friend.
Ed Ray Horner III
my friend, my chief
November 20, 1954 to November 23, 2013
We all could be a little happier. The great news is that our happy does not come from others, but from within our own selves. Though I must admit I have a problem with several of these myself. Where I am the biggest offender of sabotaging my own happiness is with numbers 2, 4, 5, 15. Let’s all work on improving our own happiness. Not only will we feel better, but we will help those we care about the most have a better day too. – Joe
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